You Are Not Alone
When we experience a significant loss in our lives, often we fall into depression, anxiety or denial just to name a few. When we fall into these ailments, we tend to pull away from family, friends and ourselves., we disconnect. By disconnecting from ourselves and others, the feeling of being alone sets in and deepens the depression or anxiety. When actually your not alone, your alone if you chose to be. Allow your family and friends to be there for you and more importantly reconnect to YOU. That connection to you, the love you have for yourself is what will guide and support you through. Family and friends are also going through their own emotional roller-coaster and they too need support. Being together and supporting each other, is a wonderful way to heal.
If you don't have family or friends to support you, there are professional services available for you to seek support. Seeking professional services is not a show of weakness but it shows the strength you do have within you.
'We Are Never Alone'
What is grief ?
GRIEF AND LOSS
Grief is not a state of being; grief is a process.
Stages we pass through:
· We feel we will never be the same again
· We cannot cope with the most routine of tasks
· We regain our ability to function in the external world.
Grief is a normal emotional and physical response to a significant loss or change in our lives. We normally associate death with grief but grief can come with the loss of a job, pet, pregnancy, relationship or a way of life just to name a few.
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Helping yourself heal
Are you ready to help yourself heal?
The healing starts the moment you permit yourself to grieve over the loss you have endured. You can heal from within and through others.
Take Care of Yourself
Talk to People
Join Grief Support
Keep Your Loved One’s Favourite Belongings
Express Yourself Creatively
Spend Time Practicing Favourite Hobbies
Engage in Physical Activity
Seek Out Healing Art and Literature
Talk to a Doctor
Join a Healing Retreat
Children attending funerals
We as parents protect our children, it's a natural process of being a loving parent. You want to protect them form the pain and sadness that's associated with funerals. It can be a confusing time for children if they are not included.
Funerals don't discriminate against age. It's a significant ritual in ones life and will help children to accept the loss and provide them an avenue to express their grief within a loving, supportive environment. Allow them to understand the process of a funeral and that it's ok, it's not to be feared but to celebrate and honour that person and how that person touched their life.
You can support them by explaining what is going to happen at the beginning, middle and end of the service. They may want to participate by placing a flower or something significantly special on the coffin.
Children need to be allowed to express their greif.
Accepting a loss
The loss of a loved one can leave you feeling empty, alone and fearful of what the future may now be. As one door closes another opens. Grief is a natural process when you lose something or someone. It can make it hard to face the daily responsibilities and find joy again.
Your grief may feel it will never go away. It will once you have accepted your loss and it's ok to heal as you will always remember them. You will smile again when you think of the good times.
There is no time limit on grief, it's up to you how long.
If you feel that your not coping, please seek professional services.
The Benefits of Grief Counselling
Grief is the emotional experience that occurs after a loss, usually in the form of the death of a loved one or loved ones. Although grieving is a universal experience, every individual experiences grief in their own unique way. How they grieve, what they feel, how they respond to grief, and even how long they grieve are all dependent on an individual’s own grieving process. Many people, due to the inability to handle grief or even simply to help get themselves through the grieving process, seek out grief counselling. Grief counselling is therapeutic counselling done with the grieving process in mind and is usually sought out specifically for the purpose of helping someone understand, cope and even move on from their grief. This type of counselling is also a personal process for anyone that seeks it out. Some people may benefit more from a counsellor who simply lets them talk their feelings of emotion and grief out, while others may wish for a counsellor who actively helps their client cope with their grief in other ways.
In order to understand how grief counselling can benefit someone, let’s look at a brief description of the main stages of grief after the death of a family member, friend or other loved one.
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